Why wear out yourself when you can set your own rules and win?

Life is simple when you’re true to yourself. What makes it hard is the pressure of keeping up with the Joneses or living up to society’s expectations. And these expectations are often warped.

Why, for instance, would a beautifully endowed lady hire a man to pose as her fiancé just to make a statement or prove a point to her [unhappily] engaged sister?

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Why would a young man take a loan to buy home theatre and a big TV just to impress friends and visitors? And this is a very busy professional, hustler or businessman who rarely spends time at home not to talk of enjoying those gadgets. 

By all means, do good for yourself and your family but it’s more important to leave a legacy than to revel in shallow achievements. 

What people think about you is their business. How you handle it (or what you do with your life) is yours. Mind your business and let them mind theirs. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

In our undergraduate days at the University of Ibadan one of the refrains that we often heard from Christian brothers and sisters was: “If you fail in the day of adversity, your strength is small.”

What people think about you is their business. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. Click To Tweet Thinking about it now, I realise that some of us took it as an indictment or a judgement of our capacity. So we were often struggling to catch up with matters that were beyond us when we should have simply accepted it not as a condemning verdict but as an honest assessment.

When someone confronts you with that kind of Scripture. Don’t try to prove a point. If you have taken up an assignment and you realise that it is draining you and causing you to lose your joy, drop it; your strength is small. Go build your muscles then come back and pick it up if necessary.

Yes, we can do all things through Christ. Praise God! But that’s talking about the things God wants us to do, not the burdens we heap up to ourselves.

As important as it is to exert ourselves, avoid complacency and maximise our potentials, we must also learn to accept our limitations and be practical about how we intend to rise above them. 

No matter how hard you try, you cannot run from Lagos to Abuja in one hour. It’s only wise to accept that limitation. But do you have to accept it as a permanent verdict? Certainly not! You can book a flight and arrive in under one hour. And if you can’t afford a flight right now, why use an airline when you can use a good ‘landline’ like God is GoodABC or Cross Country?

Don't run your life on the opinions of others. Set your own rules and win! Click To Tweet

So what’s the point running from Lagos to Abuja on foot just to prove how strong I am? And why do I have to borrow airfare when I can easily and affordably travel by road?

My friend, stop living by the ‘standards’ that will make you foolish in the end. Set your own rules and win!

A word, they say, is enough for the wise.

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