Marriage is the biggest ‘scam’ and the best ‘gamble’ ever!

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It’s our first wedding anniversary and I’m just filled with gratitude!

Friends, if you’re ripe for marriage, simplify your life and make your move. Waiting until you’re ready may mean waiting forever. When I got married I had just quit my job to pursue an ‘uncertain’ path. My house was practically empty but I knew it was time and I did not have any vain expectations.

As far back as 2010 a very dear brother told me, “When a man misses his moment, he becomes a monument.” He was encouraging me to propose to the ‘sister of God’ before going for the one year of national youth service (NYSC). But I wasn’t ‘seeing anything’ yet. So I replied by reminding him that “He who believes shall not make haste”. Six years later, the wait was over. Then that word came back and this time, it was rhema!

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Even though things did not look like it in the natural I had a firm conviction that it was time. I must mention that a part of me was afraid but I was buoyed up by the word of God, the positive disposition of my wife, the overwhelming love of our parents and the encouragement of our pastors who supplied Godly wisdom and helped us take some practical steps.

(Every time I see people keeping their relationships away from their pastors or resisting accountability in some other form, I just shake my head. That’s a story for another day.)

It’s one year now and we are blessed in every way. If you’re looking for the biggest ‘scam’ and the best ‘gamble’ ever, it’s marriage! Get it right and you automagically multiply your joys and divide your sorrows. For example, what other system or institution allows two adults to suddenly create a brand new set of family bonds, start an entirely new home and raise an entirely new breed of humans? Nothing else but marriage! Of course there’s the price to pay and you have the law of seed and harvest to obey. But the price is nothing compared to the prize and the joy of harvest infinitely outweighs the pain of tilling the soil! Once you get rid of selfishness and pride and choose to walk in love there’s absolutely no mountain that you cannot surmount.

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One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand. Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour… and a three-fold cord is not easily broken! (Ecclesiastes 4:8-12) It’s one year now and I can only look back with gratitude. The all-round transformation is nothing short of amazing! And when I think that we have only just started, I get even more excited about what the future holds! For the path of the just is like sunlight at dawn that shines brighter and brighter until the full light of day.

All glory to God who has brought us this far and will be our help till the very end!

PS: Did you notice that my wife and I are already beginning to look alike? I used to think it was fallacy o! LOL.

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    Nice article. Easy to read. We all felt the same way but God is faithful. I won’t really call it a scam or a gamble because before marriage, we get prepared to some extent, and like a man of God once said, that your preparation in marriage determines your expectation. God bless you

    • Philip

      Thanks for the insightful comment.

      The words ‘scam’ and ‘gamble’ are not used in the traditional sense which is why they are put in inverted commas.

      The central idea is that marriage is richly rewarding when we give it what it takes. I totally agree with you on the need for preparation.


  • llama256

    O my God. You have been married for 1 year and you think you have it all figured out? Give me a break, visit us again in 7 years when you’re living in a cardboard box fool Why were you even allowed to write this foolish article?

    • Philip

      Nothing in this article suggests having it all figured out. You have a right to choose your path just as I have a right to choose mine. 77 years from now, my family and I will still be going strong.

      By the way, what do you think this comment says about you and why didn’t you comment with your real name.